Indian career couples too tired to have sex!

A lady Bollywood director married to a mountaineer for the past seven years has not found time to consummate their marriage so far. Worse, they did not find anything unusual in this till their friends pushed them to a psychiatrist for consultation!

This may be an exceptional case but experts at ’Psychiatrists as sexologists’, a two-day consultation on sexual medicine by the Indian Psychiatrists Society (IPS) on Saturday sent the alarm bells ringing with the statistic that more and more couples are voluntarily shunning action in the bedrooms because they are too tired after long hours at work.

"A survey has revealed that couples of this generation devote 70 per cent time to their work and just 18 per cent time to their marriage. This is worrisome as this lack of intimacy is breaking up a lot of marriages," says senior psychiatrist Dr Mahendra Watsa of Mumbai.

Dr Watsa said that as the number of such too-fatigued-to-have-sex couples increases in his clinic as they come with emotional and marital problems, he has started advising them to avoid newspapers in the morning and get busy in the bedrooms!

Psychologist Raj Brahmabhatt said that young men and women in most metro and mega-cities have got busy in the rat race. "Couples these days are chasing luxury flats, cars and farm-houses which they want within three years of their careers. Where is the time to get physically intimate?" says Dr Brahmabhatt who admitted to having seen a lot of couples who confess to having no desire for sex at the end of the day.

The most affected are couples involved in the BPO and IT industry. "The working hours are gruelling. There is a boom of marital discords in south India as most techies work 14-18 hours a day.

Unfortunately, emotional and physical intimacy does not respond akin to pressing a computer button," said psychiatrist Dr TSS Rao.

"The world feels that India is multiplying but there is a growing number of couples not wanting to becoming parents out of choice. They do not have time to conceive and devote time to parenthood," says psychiatrist Dr PC Shastri, who feels that working couples should set themselves we-alone dates and once-a-week bedroom date to regain romance!