Relationships, especially marriages, are supposed to last a lifetime. And while most people are shocked to find out that their partner is very much in love... with someone else, there are tell-tale signs in most cases of infedility. It’s just that you don’t see them or rather, ignore them. Well, sweeping it under the carpet isn’t going to help anyone. In fact it will only make things worse. Here are signs that could mean that there’s a meal for two cooking, behind your back!
Lack of communication: Leaving post-its on the fridge or sending e-mails to inquire if the laundry has arrived is not the ideal way to communicate. You don’t need to be a relationship expert to see that not only have the sweet nothings stopped coming your way, but even the fights don’t happen anymore. Indifference is worse than irritating behaviour.
Changing phone habits: We’re living in times, where the cell phone can reveal a person’s deepest, darkest secrets. Does your spouse feel the need to move away when a certain someone calls? Does he have a special ringtone for this particular caller? Are there two many beeps indicating incoming messages at an hour when you can’t really be discussing office work? A quick run through your spouse’s inbox or sent messages could clear many things.
Sudden changes in likes and dislikes: If your well-rounded spouse is suddenly hitting the gym or seems overtly obsessed with his/her looks, it may indicate something’s amiss. This isn’t limited to external changes, but also changes in some likes and dislikes. Why else would your ghazal-loving husband suddenly become a Britney Spears fan? Or why would your wife who loves English poetry start sprouting shayari?
Picking up fights: Having fights is a sign of a healthy relationship. But fighting over trivial things like spending an extra minute in the loo is uncalled for. If everything, from the way you dress to the way you sit, walk, talk and even breathe seems to be a reason for a fight, then there’s more to it than what meets the eye.
Accuses you of cheating: A person’s ego often comes in the way of accepting his/her mistake and the best way out is to accuse the other person of some wrong doing. So if your spouse suddenly starts objecting to you chatting with a colleague of the opposite sex too often, don’t think he/she is trying to be cute and possessive. This may be later used as a reason to justify his/her infidelity.
Works overtime: Today an important meeting, tomorrow a business party and then some visiting clients, the excuses just don’t seem to end. It would be a good idea to check what exactly the overtime work is all about and what’s it going to cost you... very dearly if you aren’t careful.
Breaks dates too often: Do you remember that time when you were left standing outside the restaurant hungry, but never got to go in because your husband didn’t turn up? Or the time when you were stranded in a downpour because your wife couldn’t find a cab from her office which was two blocks away and unfortunately her cell battery had died just then? We don’t mean to say that every time your spouse breaks a date you suspect his/her actions, but anything that happens too often indicates something. Breaking a date is an indication that there are things, other than you, far more important to your partner.
Prefers to go out without you: There’s always some reason why you can’t go to a party. ‘It’s just office people’ or ‘It’s a boy’s night out’ or ‘We’ll be discussing work, honey’ are lines guaranteed to keep you safely tucked away at home while your better half may be boogeying the night away with a PYT. There’s got to be some reason why your homely hubby has turned into an ‘I-party-every-night’ types.
Bedroom behaviour changes: When there are two many sudden headaches just when things start getting romantic, or the need to tuck in a pillow between the two of you can’t be healthy for any relationship. If your partner prefers to watch saas-bahu sagas to canoodling with you, then it’s time to make your feelings clear. Don’t let your partner blame you for the sex life going sour. Try spicing up things, but know when your advances are not being returned. When candlelight dinners, sweet nothings and even sexy lingerie doesn’t work, there’s got to be a major problem there somewhere.
Used another name in bed
It can’t get more obvious than this! A cardinal sin! We don’t even need to explain this to you. Let him/her give you a plausible explanation for this goof-up.
And if it isn’t convincing enough, it’s time you seriously seek o
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